This is probably one of THE most incredibly stupid statements I have ever heard. How the HELL am I supposed to get pregnant if I stop trying?? You fucking moron.
Okay, no seriously, I get what you're trying to say. Stop stressing over it; Roll with it; It'll happen when it happens (no shit), but you know what? All of that is the wrong thing to say. It really is. When someone would give their left eyeball to become pregnant, we don't want to hear things like "Just let it happen" or "I did this and this, and that's how I got pregnant with my 3rd baby, so give it a try!" The last thing I want to hear is how you successfully got pregnant when I'm sitting over here struggling for years on top of years and have yet to conceive. Just be understanding, offer moral support and keep your unsolicited advice to yourself.
Does this seem harsh? Yes.. but trying to get pregnant with no success is a very emotional and sensitive subject for a woman. We are genuinely happy for you when you announce your great news! We want to hug you and wish you the absolute best. But there's a twinge of pain there, a hint of jealousy and sometimes we go home and we sob into our pillows. There's really no other way to describe the feeling besides.. it just really blows.
So please, next time your friend opens up to you and tells you how sad they are that they just can't seem to get a big fat positive (because if she does open up to you, you're special. She won't talk to just anyone about it), just listen. Suggest you go catch a movie to take her mind off of it. Hug her if you need to. Just don't tell her to relax, or to try some crazy herb or anything else for that matter.. Unless, of course, you're a fertility specialist. Or a miracle worker.
Have some heart. Realize this is a sensitive subject and just let her express herself. It's the only control she has.
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